The Hot Seat
My mother texted me some exciting news. "I am sitting on the best thing since the invention of fire."
She then sent along some eye-candy for effect: a picture of Elmo sitting on a toddler potty.
Of course, this life-changing event required a phone call for details.
It seems that even during the heat of summer, one might long for a heated toilet seat.
If that someone is my mother. Apparently after visiting a friend who had one, jealousy and longing overcame her and she had to have one too.
"Can I come over and use it this winter?" I asked, of course. Because who wouldn't want a warm and cozy toileting experience?
This got her very excited.
"Maybe I'll sell tickets...they'll be lining up at the door to use it. I'll make millions."
I wasn't entirely convinced. "What else can it do?"
Because if I was going to invest in a new toilet seat, I'd need some more bells and whistles...and maybe music. Have they invented a toilet seat that plays soft music when a rear is placed atop it? What about a read-aloud poem or short story for particularly lengthy bodily business?
Or maybe...no, absolutely, it would be nice if my toilet seat had something nice to say, like, "You’re doing very well. Keep at it. You're smart enough, you're funny enough and by golly, you're good looking as hell."
Now, that's the kind of positive reinforcement I could really use in a toilet seat.
50, Facebook Style
A Facebook pal posted that she looked in the mirror on her 50th birthday and liked what she saw. On my 50th birthday, I looked in the mirror and was grateful that there was a layer of dust on it, due to my lack of housekeeping.
Meanwhile, today, a month before my 53rd birthday, I looked in the mirror and had to grip the edges of the sink, as a swell of nausea and faintness began to take command of my legs. (Unfortunately, I had unthinkingly assigned my son the task of cleaning the mirrors recently, which, incidentally, took him a rather long time what with all the accumulated grime and dust.)
So I called my friend, the bone-chillingly honest one, to commiserate and also, to agree with me that my Facebook gal was either straight up lying, or delusional, the poor sap.
"She said she's proud of her gray hair, wrinkles and stretch marks because she’s earned them," I spat into the phone.
"She probably had an empty bottle of whiskey in her hand when she wrote that," my friend deadpanned.
Of course, that explains it.
Road Trip with My Teenage Son
I love him.
I want to kill him.
I love him.
I want to kill him.
But mostly, I love him.
Road Trip with Teenage Son, Part 2
I love him.
How could it be that this handsome, brilliant and hysterically humorous creature who joyously yet painfully sprung from my loins, full of promise and sound mind is now, quite frankly causing me grief beyond what should be humanly necessary, without a modicum of manners or remorse?
I love him.
Are there enough hours of therapy that would address the post-traumatic stress disorder that I will likely face after being subjected to hours of time trapped in an automobile with a mutant hormonal alien creature who is hostilely but hopefully not permanently destroying my will to live?
I love him.
Please, have mercy on me, universe who has laughingly bestowed upon me this mystifying monster inflicting parental pain when all I was trying to do was have some fun during my summer vacation while bonding with a boy who I now would like to heave out of the car, for the sake of my own sanity and also, to avoid prison time (because I would not do well in prison.)
Still, I love him.
I Am Superwoman in My Dreams
Two questions that I didn’t realize I had recently were answered: 1. Is it possible to receive a bonafide concussion in one’s own bedroom, while lying upon a bed? Yes. 2. Can the worlds of dreaming and real life intersect? Yes.
But wait! A third question I didn’t realize I had is this: 3. Can a grown woman purchase and install guard railing, such as the type typically used to keep a baby or toddler safe during slumber, for her own bed? Yes.
Here is the very short, ridiculously true story:
I was dreaming that I was flying out of the shower (to escape the alligator that was climbing in to bathe with me (of course) when suddenly, the dream ended and I was half lying, half sitting, limbs akimbo like a pretzel, not knowing where I was. Also, the place I sat in was spinning and the pain, oh the pain. This is what it must feel like after time in the boxing ring with an orangutan who has just beat you to a pulp.
It seems that my body did not understand that the dream was over, which caused me to fly out of my bed, smack into a nightstand and knock my noggin on a wall. Then, a cry in the night, “Help.” A teenager from the bedroom next door dashing into the room. A husband sitting up in bed, rubbing his eyes. A dog, lounging on my pillow, vigorously chomping on his chew bone.
Twenty minutes later: Surrounded by bags of ice on offending body parts. Two weeks later: a sudden bout of vertigo and a trip to the hospital to scan my brain, which was bruised, but good (well, as good as my brain ever was, at least.)
One month later: 1. I can now distinguish the floor from the ceiling on a mostly continued basis. 2. I am still using the injury to gain sympathy, get out of chores and avoid the gym. 3. I have a very short, ridiculously true story to tell (which is almost as good as the story about when a bathroom purse hook got stuck in my ear. Don’t ask. Well, actually, do ask, if you would like to find out how to avoid a similar fate one day.)
The Other Woman is a Washing Machine
I have a problem. My husband is in love with our new washing machine.
"It's so quiet," he says, rubbing the top gently.
For weeks, he had shopped to find the best deal on this new paragon of clothing cleanliness. He found her one glorious Saturday afternoon, but still, he didn't rush it. He visited her frequently, to make sure the fit was right.
One day, a big truck appeared in front of our house. Big, strong men carried her in, while my husband watched, a wide grin on his face.
I think he loves the new washing machine better than me.
But I can't say I blame him. In fact, this state-of-the-art front loader has loads of attributes that I don't. For example: 1. She sings a song when she's done with each cycle. 2. All you need to do is gently tap a sensitive digital power button to turn her on. And: 3. She doesn't curse while she's working.
I can't compete with that.
I am Not a House
I met Alaya at a "meditative dance" class. I was dragged, I mean, invited, by a good friend (who I now think may be half out of her mind, like the rest of the people in that class.) Meditative dance – to me, that's an oxymoron. I can't concentrate on my dance moves if I'm busy meditating. Who could? (Of course, for me, meditation means it's time to think about what I'll be having for lunch and whether or not it'll involve chocolate.)
Alaya told me her "spritual teacher" named her Alaya because it sounded like something "beautiful and flowing." The sound of the name her parents gave her, Iris, didn't suit her, she said. Which makes me rethink my own name: Pam. Because come to think of it, my name sounds like a big, old rock, an immobile lump. Pam. My name isn't flowing, like Alaya's. It's not fair. (Maybe I will change it to "Stream.")
Meanwhile, another problem with meditative dance is that you have to dance in a circle, holding hands. Maybe it's just me, but it seems that when you're holding hands with someone for longer than 10 minutes, hands tend to sweat profusely. This makes me start fantasizing about the moment I can, finally, wash my hands. Then, just as I was thinking I'd make a break for it or maybe sever the cord to the CD player playing what sounded like a spaced out hippie randomly plucking a harp and sighing, the sprightly, white-haired gentleman on my right turned to me and said, "I'm so glad you are here."
"Enjoy it while you can, old man," I thought to myself.
So, of course, when the two-hour torture session, ahem, dance class, broke for a break halfway through, I ran outside for dear life, screaming something like, "Take me into the light. This is most God-awful class I've ever had to suffer through. Oh, the humanity." And because this was incredibly irreverent on my part, since after all, we were dancing in a "sacred space," the Goddesses decided to have me trip over a rock and fall onto my shoulder, possibly dislocating it for the rest of my life. But that can't be as painful as meditative dance. Because it got worse.
When we circled up again, I was forced to be a "house," arms held high so I could open up my "roof" to the new season of spring. Then, some of us were instructed to dance into the middle of the circle (without tripping over the lit candles, of course) to our "source" and "sprinkle water" over our bodies to be "renewed." Then, the others gently placed their hands on our backs. Afterwards, during group "reflection," one woman said she felt "comforted by the supporting hands on (her) back."
Funny – what I'd been thinking, of course, was, "get your sweaty hands off me." Guess maybe I deserve the name, Pam. My spirit is not beautiful and flowing, like Alaya's. But maybe that's o.k. We all have our strengths. Mine don't include pretending to be a house.